The Choices of Pregnancy and Decision of Life
Ideally, pregnancy is a time of anticipation and happiness. However, there are circumstances in which pregnancy is considered a problem. If you are dealing with a crisis pregnancy you may feel pressured into having an abortion. You may not receive the practical help and understanding that you need. You do have choices. Take the time to weigh the positive and negative of each option.
Parenting - Having the child is only the beginning. If you decide to parent your child you will need support and possibly material, spiritual and/or emotional support. We are here for you and can help you to get established. We can assist with support/classes for both you and the other people in your life.
Adoption - Your pregnancy results in giving life in which you can feel good and positive about your choice. In an open adoption you can select, meet and stay in touch with the adoptive parents if that is the plan you have chosen.
Abortion - Your pregnancy ends with the death of your child. You may feel shame and guilt about your choice. Abortion is final; you cant go back on your decision. You will be left with the memory of taking a life. Many women are faced with side effects following an abortion procedure including sadness, long-term grief reactions, anger, sexual dysfunction, guilt, flashbacks, memory repression, anniversary reactions, hallucinations, suicidal thoughts, increased alcohol and drug use, difficulty keeping close relationships. These are known as the emotional risks of an abortion. There are also possible physical and spiritual risks associated with an abortion.
Physical risks include infection, tearing of the uterus which would need surgery to fix the tear, heavy bleeding, stroke and high blood pressure as well as difficulty with conceiving later in Life.
The spiritual cost of the abortion will be the biggest price to pay. In the long term, the truth will surface that the abortion killed a child - your child, the child your instincts calls you to protect.
Abstinence - How can I be totally free from fears of pregnancy, AIDS, STDs, a damaged reputation, interrupted (sometimes never completed) education, "trapped" into marriage? Abstain from sexually intimacy until marriage!
RESPECT YOURSELF. If you dont respect yourself, no one else will. You dont have to have sex just to please someone else. Sex isnt the only thing that makes you worth loving.
KISS THE FEARS GOODBYE. Fears about pregnancy, AIDS and other diseases can make you worried, confused, mad, anxious and not very attractive or fun to be around.
BE CONFIDENT, HAVE A MIND OF YOUR OWN. Dont have sex to follow the crowd.
DONT GET TRAPPED. Relationships can get very heavy, very fast, once sex is involved. If commitment and responsibility hit a relationship too early, it brings out the worst in everyone.
CARE ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON. Pressure isnt sexy. If the person youre with isnt ready for sex, dont push. Show that you know your relationship is a two-way street.
KNOW ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON. People love to be with someone who understands them. Taking time to find out what the other person really wants will make your relationship better.
KEEP SOMETHING YOU CAN BOTH LOOK FORWARD TO. If its the right person, your feelings will grow and last without sex. Just knowing that youre saving sex for marriage can make your relationship even more special.
BE TOTALLY FREE. No getting pushed around by what other people say. No pressure to make commitments to someone until you want to. No fears about disease or pregnancy. No risking your whole future for a few minutes of fun now. This is the freedom you have when you decide to save sex for marriage. And thats the kind of attitude its very easy to fall in love with.